Not too long ago a good friend told me I was part of her monchu. I had no idea what that meant so I asked her. She explained that monchu is the family you choose. I love the concept—bring on the monchu!
I like how Chris Brogan from Owner puts it:
The word “Monchu” is an Okinawan word that means “one family” or sometimes “extended family” or sometimes “the family we choose.” What the definition tends to mean from all who talk about it is this: people you like and care about as much as you are supposed to care about your flesh and blood family. We use it to mean something much more valuable than a network connection and yet clearly not our uncle or aunt.
I feel lucky to have a large group of people I would consider like family. Mentors, confidantes and fellow adventurers make my life richer, and hopefully I return the favor.
Having a name for it—monchu—makes me think of it as something to cultivate and care for. A monchu is an asset. That loving group of chosen family you trust and love are sometimes what makes the difference between hope and despair. Our chosen family keeps us sane, feet planted firmly and balanced.
The way I understand it, your monchu is the family you choose, and you can choose your blood family. The origins are irrelevant. What matters is that we reach out to each other, whenever we can, and be family to each other—blood or no blood.
Tonight, I’m dreaming of a global monchu. Anything is possible, one person at a time.